As we were going along the trail on our cross country skis, I looked at my husband and threw my hands up in the air. “Are we every going to get unstuck? I feel like my life is just STUCK in one place.” (No, I was not physically stuck with my skis). I proceeded to vent about how I felt that I am constantly growing, constantly dreaming of the future, and constantly working my rear end off to either pay off debts or have a healthy marriage.
I JUST WANT TO GLIDE IN LIFE. Seems like a lot of other people are in those seasons… You know the one where they have no debt, love their job, are in ministry, look like their marriage is amazing, oh yeah and of course they already have started their family. It is like I keep working on getting at least a few of these- okay at least one in my own life but the striving doesn’t stop.
I recently have almost hit the pause button in life only to be confused where the movie is even going and if it is good enough to keep watching compared to other movies. Yes, I am realizing how dramatic I sound. And honestly, as I write this- I don’t have anything figured out. I am more writing out all my thoughts so that maybe, just maybe- I will realize that I am not stuck in one continuous season.
If I were being authentic I would say I am sick of feeling like everyone else had amazing lives and there was something wrong with me for being the only one the Lord was constantly having to work on. (But isn’t that just how we all make our lives seem- all beautifully perfect for an Instagram post). I wish we were more open about our struggles. Often it seems like we keep it to ourselves, then after we have it all figured out and fixed, it is then we tell people as a testimony. And yes, not everyone needs to be involved with your struggle, but is anyone involved? Well let me tell you something, right now as it sits- the Lord showed us that we needed other people- AND need to be more honest. I have come to see that the community He strategically put around us would actually be what helps keep our boats a float when we get ‘stuck’.
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2
Let me ask you something- If you were on a boat and holes started appearing- water pouring in, would you have people there with you plugging up the holes and bailing out water? Because if you don’t, your surely going to sink. That is where I am at. Sure it isn’t a season of gliding, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t still beautiful. I have seen more people around me in my church family sacrifice their time to pray for me or love me with ice cream and late night chats or texts than ever. I have never felt so apart of God’s family. It has never made so much sense as it does now, why the Lord goes after the one. We are each a valuable and important apart of the Body- all play a part because of our unique gifts and love He created in us. We need each other- To pray, to love, to walk along side, to hold each other accountable, to battle alongside in the spiritual realm and worship with. So let me tell you this- whatever season you are in, whether it be easy or tough, YOU are a part of the family. We need you and you need us. And it is the most beautiful family to be a part of if we follow our Father’s footsteps. No matter how awkward- it is vital to your spiritual life to get plugged into a church family. We all need others running the same race to help hold us up when we are too tired and life is giving one hell of a side ache.
Shame is a liar. So is fear. Take a minute of insane courage and go talk to someone who you know loves the Lord and tell them what is going on in your life. You’ll be surprised by their grace, how much they love you, and how they will not hesitate to throw your arm over their shoulder so they can help you run the race.
“Two are better than one, because they have good return for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Shout out to my church family for showing us that this can be done so well and together we can have victory and impact the Kingdom of God- not just strive for earthly desires alone.
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11
So I guess for now, I am thankful that above all- I have people around me that are truly Godly women and men that champion us when we don’t have the stamina to do it alone. I am also thankful the Lord shapes us so we will be able to help others when they are in the same part of the race (that sucked) we have experienced in the past. Simply put- the Lord will use every tear, every battle, and every victory you make it through with Him- for His Kingdom. That is pretty cool.
As my husband listened and encouraged me we made eye contact again. He smiled at me, “Hey look, we are gliding now on our skis- must be the Lord showing us what is to come in our spiritual season.” Love each other and cheer each other on- Hope will be born. And maybe, just maybe our gliding will be possible because of the people who have helped lighten our load.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.” Proverbs 11:25